Bob:
The fact that people want to be married, want to be recognized as a married couple, means that they value all of those things associated with long-term commitment.  Stability, being there for each other, being part of a community, presumably making a contribution.  As opposed to living in the marginal corridors of a society.

Pat:
Right.  When folks talk about, “oh, isn’t this horrible?”  My response is, “but I don’t believe people are asking you to choose that particular way of being.  But rather respect their choice.”  Just as we’ve asked people to respect our choice.  We all have a right to choose, or should have a right to choose.