Gay:
At some point it occurred to me, “we don’t have to break up!”  You know?  We could get married!  And that would be such a relief!  Not to have to go through all that breaking up business again!  Which is so painful!

RF:
Is marriage still necessary?

Herb:
Frankly, the important thing is the relationship.  I’ve felt that for a long time.  I’ve had a lot of therapy, and I came to that conclusion.  The important thing is the relationship.  And it doesn’t matter if the relationship is in terms of marriage or not marriage.